Healing Through Parenting: Moving Past My Past

People often say that my daughter and I look exactly alike, and my typical response is, "But she’s much prettier." I struggle to understand how I could possibly be considered that pretty as well.

Growing up, praise was scarce, while criticism was abundant. As a result, I felt ugly and somewhat stupid, convinced I was never doing anything right. My childhood provided a blueprint of what not to do as a parent, leaving me feeling broken inside. I learned to project confidence while grappling with profound insecurity.

Now, watching my daughter and son as they grow, I realise they understand their strengths and know I appreciate them. More importantly, I hope they feel my unconditional love and support, regardless of their mistakes.

It’s fascinating to reflect on the lies I told my mother, which influenced my own parenting style. I strive to foster an environment where my children feel valued and safe to express themselves, breaking those cycles of criticism and embracing the beauty in their individuality.

Every day is an opportunity to learn from the past and create a brighter future for my family.